December 2, 2009

Marital Resolutions


This picture is the Christmas before we married. Jeramy is much thinner in real life. I'm not, now. :-) The Short Version of how we came together:

Jeramy and I met on Sunday, February 19, 2006 in Louisville, Kentucky at a Sunday School Potluck. We began to court on Resurrection Sunday. I met his parents on Mother's Day weekend and he met my parents the following weekend when I graduated from The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Jeramy went to Africa for three weeks, then came to Virginia to visit me. He proposed marriage, after receiving my parents' "blessing", on July 10 of the same year. We attended pre-marital counseling and married on March 3, 2007.

Since that time we have grown quite a bit and by God's grace we are still married. :-) Our relationship has deepened over the few years we've known each other. Here are some of the lessons I've learned:

  • It's Biblical and right to be feminine.
  • I was created to be his helper, not vice versa.
  • Nagging tears down. Affirmation builds up.
  • As a woman, I was created to become a mother, therefore I bear the full responsibility to nurture and care for our children, not a nanny and not the government.
  • My joyful and content attitude creates a joyful and content home. This is more important than any decor I hang on the walls.
  • I am responsible to maintain a clean and safe home environment as much as I'm able.
  • I have resolved to always respond positively to my husband's need for intimacy and physical affection. (This works great for both of us. :-)
  • It is better not to mention his shortcomings, but to always be grateful for the efforts willingly volunteered.
  • Trust and allow him to bear the responsibilities of final decision-making, especially in the area of our finances.
  • As much as it's possible, depend on God's grace to refrain from bitterness when I can't seize the same opportunities he can.
  • Submit with joy and contentment when you don't agree.
  • Live happily ever after.

3 comments:

Jeramy Anderson said...

God bless my wonderful gracious loving doe! She has stuck with me through so many difficult times, and I am forever thankful for her submission when I had to make tough decisions that made our lives difficult for a while.

De Gina said...

I love your list of things that you have learned. I will have to commend you on learning these deep truths so quickly. I have been married for 22 years and my lessons didn't come so fast. God Bless you and your sweet family.

L. Siyam said...

What a wonderful list! It is refreshing to read things like this.
Way to to go girl!